How do I stop attracting partners who act like they don’t care about me the entire relationship?
I have a question for you. Why do you think you attract partners that treat you like an afterthought? What is the one thing all of these partners have in common, besides treating you like an afterthought? I’ll tell you. The one thing they have in common is that you chose them. You chose all of them.
I am in no way blaming you, but I am asking you to look in the mirror. Do you think you’re worthy of a relationship where you are seen, heard and accepted? Do you think you’re worthy of your significant other being there for you? You’re obviously picking these guys for a reason. Now we just have to figure out why.
The first thing to do is to get to the root of the matter. Ask yourself these questions. How do you see yourself? What makes you a worthy being? Are you worthy of unconditional love? What do you love about yourself? The answer to these questions will allow you to get to the root of the matter. From my perspective, you’re attracting guys that don’t value you. Maybe in the same way you’re not valuing yourself?
Like is attracted to like and it seems you are attracting guys that are disinterested in you. Are you disinterested in yourself? Do you like and love all of yourself? Even the parts that you wish you could change? Have you ever considered laying off dating and just focusing on yourself? Focusing on self-love and self-acceptance will really boost your self-esteem and help you see that you are a worthy being. Ask yourself this question; how do you expect someone to give their all to you if you can’t even give your all to yourself? Take this time to figure out who you are and what you want from a relationship and a significant other.