I’ve always been a fat kid…

I’ve always been a fat kid. Growing up, I was always teased by other kids and I turned to humor as a defense mechanism. Once I started attending university, I felt even more self-conscious. I’m 5’3 and 180 lbs. My mother has always been so pretty and fit, and everyone always compliments her and tells me that I have a hot mom.

I want to lose weight, I really do! I don’t want to be fat and unhealthy anymore. But I always feel super self-conscious about my body whenever I work out at the gym, especially whenever I see extremely skinny people working out. How do I push myself to lose weight and make myself feel better?

Okay, the first thing you have to do is to stop calling yourself names. Fat is a social construct, so get that word out of your head. Next, in order to lose the weight, you have to love yourself as you are now. I know, sounds weird, but trust me, it’ll work. You have to be in love with where you’re at physically, to be able to shed the pounds.

And I guarantee that you are not the only one to feel self-conscious at a gym. Just remember, those skinny people were most likely not always the size they are now, and that it took work for them to have the physiques that they currently have. Losing weight is a process that will take time. Just think, it took years to put on the weight, it may take years to take it off. But losing weight is more than just losing weight, it’s about falling in love with yourself now and along the journey that you are embarking upon.

A good way to feel better about yourself and your body is to try affirmations. You could try, “I love my body and I love myself” or “I am perfect and complete just the way I am” or even, “Accepting myself as I am right now is the first step in growing and evolving”, while standing in front of the mirror in the Superman pose with your hands on your hips. It may feel weird at first, but trust me, you will start to believe in yourself and see yourself in a positive new light. Another option is to stop comparing yourself to others!!! Whenever we compare ourselves to others, we are usually looking for one person to not measure up, and usually, that person is us, so stop that. Just believe in yourself and don’t give up. I believe in you and I know you can accomplish your goal of loving all of yourself but also having the physique of your dreams. Just breathe and good luck on your journey!