How do you deal with issues due to abandonment from friends?

How do you deal with issues due to abandonment from friends? I’ve been abandoned by many friends in my life and it’s made me feel very unloved.

I’m so sorry to hear that. It sucks to give your all to people and to show all of yourself to them for them to up and leave you. But maybe they left for you to learn to be secure within yourself? Maybe they left to make space for your forever family and forever friends? Maybe they left because you all weren’t on the same trajectory or destined for the same path?

Loss is all about how you view the experience. Don’t think of the end of those relationships as being abandoned, think of it as you growing and evolving into your authentic self and those relationships and people were not meant or supposed to walk with you on the next part of your journey. The loss of those friendships and relationships shows that you’re not being stagnant but are in fact growing and evolving. So, don’t think of it as a negative, think of it as a positive and see it as your true self coming to fruition.

But also, these experiences are teaching you a lot about yourself. They are showing you that you haven’t been as loving towards yourself as you could have been. And I know it sucks that you feel abandoned but thinking you’re unloved should never come into the equation. You are always loved because you love you, because you have yourself to depend on and because you will always be there for you.

It doesn’t matter if people leave, you will always have an amazing love, a love that only you can give yourself. So, don’t see the ending of those relationships as being abandoned, see it as opportunities for you to love all of yourself and accept all of yourself. Try to see the silver lining and choose to believe that something good is coming out of the ending of those relationships.